Core Values Need to Be Established Together

When two become one flesh, a new family is created. You'll each bring ideas from your family of origin that you like, and things you don't. Together you need to decide what is important for the family you've created together.

1. Strong Family Values Are Our Compass

A map is no good if it can't be oriented correctly. A map and a compass must be used together to be useful.

Family values are the core beliefs, principles, and behaviors that guide a family's decisions, actions, and interactions, shaping their culture, relationships, and overall way of life. These influence how we interact with each other and the wider world and serve as the glue that holds us together. It's the "secret ingredient" in "us-ness/identity” as a family. Our values shape our character, guides our choices, and bonds us together

2. Strong Family Values Create a Family Legacy

Take a moment to reflect on the impact your family and upbringing had on who you are today. For better or worse, your family's values had a long-term impact on your personal formation. By creating family values together with your spouse you have the opportunity to chart a new course for future generations.

By actively participating in and honoring your family's values, you contribute to preserving your family’s legacy and instilling a deeper appreciation for your shared identity and history. When we uphold family values, we’re not just guiding our own lives; we’re setting a positive example for future generations. 

3. Strong Family Values Create a Sense of Identity

In our lowest moments, it is typically easier to focus on what we can't do or don't have than the positive opposite. Family values point us back to our true potential.

When we have a strong sense of who we are, our compass is more likely to point "true north". Understanding who we are as a family unit creates a team mentality and reminds us that we're not alone.